How do educated singles find love?
Since the concept of love was developed in the 12th century it has been the dominant subject for painters, poets, composers and almost all other types of artists. But why has love such a dominant place in your history and in our lives? To answer that question let us first have a look at what love actually means.
Merriam-Webster defines love as:
- Strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties
- Attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers
- Affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests
Love is about affection, admiration and acceptance of who you are. These are very basic needs to us. According to Maslow's Hierarchy of needs love is the third most important essential need we have after getting some to eat and drink and after having secured our basic safety.
Maslow's hierarchy of needs is an idea in psychology proposed by Russian-American Abraham Maslow in his 1943 paper "A Theory of Human Motivation" in the journal Psychological Review. Maslow subsequently extended the idea to include his observations of humans' innate curiosity.
With a need so essential as love, it should be no surprise that the topic has occupied the minds of artists throughout history. We also know that people who are in a relationship live longer than people who are not in a relationship.
So does love have the same form and importance for everybody? We know from surveys we have conducted at The Educated Singles Club, that well-educated singles value intellectual attraction very high, often higher than physical or sexual attraction. That is one of the fundamental reasons why The Educated Singles Club is different from traditional dating sites, which often focus on how you look, your age or your wealth.
How do Educated Singles fall in love then?
How we fall in love increases with both age and level of education. Life gives us life experience, which teaches us to value other thing than we value when we are young and inexperienced. Education teaches us about the complexity of the human being and also teaches us that we can become attracted to other people in many different levels - and develop love in many different forms.
Our surveys show that intellectual attraction is very important for well-educated singles. It is however more important for women than for men. But it can't stand alone. There need to be an emotional and physical attraction as well before an educated single is interested in going to the next step.
So when the intellectual attraction obviously is so important we always encourage our members to spend some resources to show their intellectual depth and bandwith in their profiles and when they contribute with comments to the discussion we have on the club's website
When you want to impress an educated single, forget about almost all the other dating tips you are presented with. The great advantage of being well-educated is that you have so much more to offer than other people. So let your intellect shine when you present yourself in your profile, in the photos you share, the comments you make, etc.