Is an Elite Single the same as Educated Single?
There is an ever ongoing discussion about whether an elite single is the same as an educated singles. Some people argue that elite single is snobbish and might refer to financial wealth, beauty, location etc, while educated single is merely a single, who has a certain level of education. Others argue that bewging educated is belonging to the elite. There is of course a lot of cultural bias in the words, but let us hear what you think.
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I think an educated single is an educated adult who happens to be single usually interested in another educated single. As an educated woman I found it can be a problem to date uneducated men because at some point they tend to either resent me or feel intimidated by my education or status as far as employment. What do you think?
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I teach Interpersonal Comm courses to undergrads. I recommend to my students to consider at least two levels of attraction out of three with the opposite, same gender or trans: (Task, Social, and Physical) and not a level of degree attraction. Street smarts and common sense, count for some level of intellectualism. There are many intellectulas who have no commonsence, let alone street smarts, that are expert at what they do in their respected area...however, sometimes, they don't make terrific candidates for a relationship. IMHO, If the goal is for a long term r-ship, I believe "Task" ( working for a common goal) and Social (being a contributor to society) are a good match. If you are totally in love with the complete package, physical, should not matter going forward because we all change looks. So, when you are out for Pizza and now you are 50+, and you can't wait for sex, so you take your pizza home, (have sex, make love) and then eat your pizza in bed, and make love again! This was fun. Nice meeting both of you, Sheila and Amrita. I feel lucky, because I have my BA, so maybe I will be a consideration as time passes. LOL
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Task, social, physical, is very interesting, but I think it leaves out an intellectual, or maybe conceptual, dimension. I don’t mean level of education or even intelligence (to the extent that can actually be measured), but how one thinks conceptually about themselves and their place in the world. Self awareness, situational awareness, objectivity. I find the ability to connect in that dimension is key to relational success, and difficult to find!
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To me, education is less important than curiosity. While many educated people are curious, some not so educated people are also curious. And I don't think of education as really making a person part of the elite--at least not in the US. I think Americans generally consider wealth the definition of elitism, not education.
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Street smarts vs academic training. The educated do not have the market cornered on intelligence. Their strength lies more in perseverance. They have found a way to pay for, attend, and finish education despite many live happenings. However, some academics have difficulty tying their shoes as they have dove head first into academia and left the real world behind. An individual who has learned how to think cares about the world around them and tries to make it better for us all that in my book is intelligence.
